Having a child with a birthdefect has really opeded my eyes. Before I had my son I would say things like "I couldn't deal with something like that. (birth defect, mental contition,ect.) God knows that. Thats why he gave my two healthy children. (My first two)I wouldn't be able to handle it any other way. It takes a special person to deal with that" How silly of me! now I feel ashamed almost for thinking that way. I CAN and WILL deal with it. And that doesn't make me some unbelievably strong individual. It makes me a mother.