Having a child with a birthdefect has really opeded my eyes. Before I had my son I would say things like "I couldn't deal with something like that. (birth defect, mental contition,ect.) God knows that. Thats why he gave my two healthy children. (My first two)I wouldn't be able to handle it any other way. It takes a special person to deal with that" How silly of me! now I feel ashamed almost for thinking that way. I CAN and WILL deal with it. And that doesn't make me some unbelievably strong individual. It makes me a mother. Sure I was speechless, devestated even, when i saw my son's leg and foot for the first time thinking:how will he ever walk? Those feelings lasted maybe 15min then it was like: What are you crying for? how dare you! your son is healthy and beautiful and PERFECT! There are many other problems he could have had. My son is 13months now and such a joy in my life. He is already teaching me so much. He is so bright and happy and social. He is also more mobile than my girls were. I am constantly getting him out of the cabinets, tiolets, or chairs. Yesterday he had gotten up in my computer chair and onto the desk! He just smiled that great big smile as to say "look mommy look what i did!"Nothing slows him down. Who knows whats in store? Sometimes,ever now and then, not often I find myself worring about the future. Then I have to remined myself that this is what he knows. This is the way he was born. He doesn't know what its like to have two good legs. Everyone deals with hardships he is no exception. I have to catch myself and I don't allow my thinking to control me. I cant let my imagination make me feel emotions that I'm not yet faced with. I'll burn that bridge when I get there.
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I'm delighted to hear your
I'm delighted to hear your son is doing so well. What type of a prostestic leg is he weaaring at the moment and how does he cope with it?
Know how you feel...
I know what you're saying when you write "Sometimes,ever now and then, not often I find myself worring about the future. Then I have to remined myself that this is what he knows. This is the way he was born. He doesn't know what its like to have two good legs." I remember thinking of everything Sami won't be able to do (like Ballet). This was when she was only 1 year old. First...she CAN do ballet if she wants...and 2...who ever said that she would WANT to~ it's funny how our minds often get us thinking of what the challenges are going to be. Truth is...you're right. This is what they KNOW. They can't imagine what their life would be like if they had legs like you and me....just like we often wonder "How can she/he do that?"
It sounds like your little one was born into the right family! You're doing a great job!
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Good Day, The first time that I saw my son, I asked God, Why me? A lot of deformities was informed by our doctor, and I could not imagined how he looks like a freak to me. But now he turned to be a handsome looking kid. He is incredible child. He never bothered how he had a PFFD. He can do everything as a normal child. He is now nine years old.
Like you, I had two normal children. My daughter was fourteen years old and the second child is thirteen years old, when my third child Ian was born. Never had we treated Ian as handicapped. We always told him that with his defect will not affect his life. His normal like the other children because only a part of his legs did not develop well. We always encouraged and told him that there are so many people with much differences or deformities and most physically challenged as him. He accepts Why God made him special. Special angels are always our children would be. God bless you and your family.
Rose