My daughter Faith was diagnosed with Bilateral PFFD when she was born in Dec 2004. She is 6 months old has had two appointments, one with Shriners in Chicago and one in Baltimore with Dr Paley. The doctor in Chicago recommended not to do anything. Dr Paley recommended to first surgically 'relax' the muscles, ligaments and tendons in her hips and knees. Then lengthen the shorter of her two legs to make them equal.
My wife and I are very divided on the treatment options. I am trying to keep a very open mind and I am looking for any assistence anyone can provide that would help us. The arguments are as follows:
My wife wants to do a third option, to do the operation to relax and lengthen the longer leg, then amputate the foot and fit her for a prosthetic for the shorter leg. Her thinking is this will allow her to operate normally, climb stairs, wear normal clothes, etc. She believes the kids won't make fun of her because prosthetics are more curious and she won't be considered a midget. She believes that she will get beaten down by society otherwise. She says I am selfish for forcing my daughter to be short.
Needless to say, I don't agree with this option. I am leaning toward Dr. Paley's option. I believe that we do all we can for her and let her be herself. That being short is who she is. She will learn to navigate like anyone else and she will be just as strong and determined regardless of her condition. I believe that amputation is harsh if there is no need and I can't understand why it would be done to be a "normal height". Because we don't know what the future holds, that amputation is limiting her options in the future. I believe it is shelfish to make my daughter wear a prosthetic.
I am not looking to prove who is right or wrong, I am looking for other's opinions. I am keeping an open mind and would love to hear from others who have had to make similar decisions. I would also love to hear from others who have PFFD and could do it all over again or just what to expect. I am just trying to do the right thing for my daughter!
Thank you for any help!
Hi, Nate. I am a twenty
Hi, Nate. I am a twenty eight year old with bilateral PFFD. I would love to talk with you and your wife about my experiences.
I had a leg lengthening at the age of 11 (1987) to lengthen my left leg. At that time, my parents and I were presented with pretty much the same options: lengthening of the left leg, shortening of the right (no way was I going for that) or amputation. I clearly remember sitting in the doctor's office and being absolutely shocked at the suggestion of amputation. That seemed extreme to both me and my parents.
If there is any way you can postpone treatment until your daughter is of an age where she can be involved in the decision making, I would recommed that.
Please feel free to contact me with any questions/concerns you or your wife may have. You can email me at lmorris@boston.k12.ma.us
Christopher
Hi there
I am the Mom of Chris who is now nearly eighteen, and was very much in the same prediciment....what descision do you make. Well, I decided to lengthen, fix all the bit and pieces, hip etc. My reasoning was ....why amputate, try and fix it first, and then later if it did not work then you amputate. Then you are not left with....maybe what if we had maybe tried to lenghten, kids are very resilient and cope well, it's the parents that don't cope well. Chris is now nearly eighteen and we have almost reached the goals..not with much pain suffering and cost, but it has been all worthwhile.
Karin
bi-lateral
Hi Nate our daughter is 7 months old born in October 2004 so i know what you are going through. at this piotn with us we have decided to do nothing and just let our girl grow I would be more than willing to tak with you about this more if you like. my personal email is
angel_78@shaw.ca
Which way to go....
Wow...I too remember what a tough choice it can be. You are presented with the options that the profesionals feel are best, but you just want your daughter to be ok. Our case has several stories in it, but the short and sweet thing is to try to do what you can to delay any type of amputation for now. My daughter has gained about 5.5" of length so far over her two surgeries, and she ride horse, runs, climbs, plays and has lots of friends. The medical world is advancing so fast I think you may want to make sure that when the perfect thing for your daughter is available that you haven't rushed out and amputated her foot so there is nothing they can do. If you want to chat feel free to email us at chuckberg@msn.com, or call collect at 763-494-8823 and we will try to help. Either way you have some time to decide as most doctors won't do much until after your daughter is at least 1 year old....Hope this helps!!
Sincerely,
Chuck, Karla, Dylan & McKenna
Recommended Reading
Hi! I wanted to recommend an article to you. It's a study done on decision-making in families who are trying to make a decision about elective surgery for children with short stature. You may be able to relate to the parents in the study. The title is "Trying to do my best as a mother..." which is also telling of the struggle we go through when trying to make a decision for our children. It can be found at this address
http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/bpsoc/bjhp/2005/00000010/00000001/...
Our son has unilateral PFFD and was an excellent candidate for lengthening so that's what we chose. I have to say that it's not an easy process. It's easy to question yourself when you put your child's livelihood in a doctor's hands especially on those days when he cries incessantly because of pain. I fully understand why many people say amputation is a viable option. There are too many factors to say that what's best for one child is best for another even if they have exactly the same medical indications. The choices we make affect more than just the child--the entire family is affected by it. We are very happy with the results of our son's lengthenings so far. He got 5.5 cm the first time and has 7.5 this time. It's miraculous to see his bare foot touching the floor now. But, I would never recommend it unequivocally to anyone. It's a very individual decision. It's not a cop out to wait or to make another choice. Or to try a few more doctors to see if there are other opinions. I appreciate doctors who are content to limit invasive treatments. (If it's not broke, don't fix it.)
We spent time praying for discernment before making a decision. I have often found that whatever you choose, your continued contentment with and support of that decision will ensure that your child will thrive.
Christine Ross
cross1999@aol.com
Re: Recommended Reading
The link to the article Christine refers to above ( British Journal of Health Psychology: "Trying to Do My Best As a Mother: Decision-Making in Families of Children Undergoing Elective Surgical Treatment for Short Stature" ) asks for $15 to view it. I found the full text of the article in google cache here and here
Since the article is cached - it may not stay available, but in summary: The article discusses interviewing 9 women whose children have achondroplasia: or in the article's own words...
The article ends with the thought that psychologists might help parents and their children as the decisions are complex and feelings about the surgery change over time....
Faith
Go see Paley...With all due respect to your wife I believe you owe it to your daughter tom do what is best for her. Amputation is permanent, quick and I disagree with it. Every doctor before Hailey told us to amputate and Paley said no. He said he could lengthen and he has and my daughter has had a hard but wonderful life so far. As a parent I personally would have found it difficult to tell my daughter we didnt didnt exhaust every option and just amputated. Im sorry if my comments sound tough but Ive lived what youre going through and please go see Dror Paley.
options
our son john gets along great with his bpffd. he had 2 surgeries to correct a clubfoot , he is 14 yrs old attends school with everyone else and is known by everyone in the school dist from 1st graders to high school sr. his biggest problem with pffd is he goes thru 2-3 pairs of shoes a year.
see how she copes with her abilities ( not disability) .
i think a disability is for someone who lost the use of something they have had.